Comparisons - an unnecessary evil
I was chatting with a long time friend and she casually remarked that i was getting too much worked on what my peers were doing and she said that i would need to take stock of bigger pressures later in life and it is totally unwarranted to have any pressures at this point and all the more for trivial reasons.
generally i would have justified why i am doing like that, but for a change i self -introspected and found that it was really true. I was getting more and more into teh viscious circle and the comparisons never stop. you pass 12th..then they ask why not IITs..then u finish BE then again the questions why not MS..okies then when u get a job in XYZ then the question why not ABC..u work in XYZ for 2 years then why not MBA ...then u do MBA..why MBA from GSBC and not the IIIMs and like minded institutes.. u finish MBA and get job in PQR then why not a job in I-bank or consulting..My god!!! wont it ever stop!!!
even if i have been content the society thrusts it pressures on to me and boy!! the stress has till now been killing me.. Is this really necessary...
some people are born intelligent and some become intelligent down the lane and i belong to the latter category, but society believes there exists only one creed and it is the former.
I think i have been cribbing ever since i passed out from engineering and have never really found what i want. cribbing i feel is a result of insecurity as well as inability to understand what u really want. In the broader sense if i think what i really want i must admit i have done reasonably well both in professional and personal front. if i am not proud of my achievemnets who else will be. i am pretty sure that there will be a thousand people who would like to be in my shoes. The case of grass looking greener on the other side has always led me in pursuit of trvial greener pastures which i am now confident i will never find as whichever pasture i go turns from green to red.The problem is not with pastures but with mindset.
As a starting block i will start to feel good about myself, reduce the cribbings and most importantly will stop the comparisons.the comparisons wouldn't have been there had i been in some other place like noida, blore , hydie etc.. but anyways knowing that i am responsible for my actions and decisions i am gonna enesure that i have all the more reasons to celebrate my existense and achievements rather than rant abt it..
A big damn to another set of comparisons which come..
hey u gotta go to US and earn $%^&$% or work in#@$@#$ in ndia .. then only girls will marry you..
hell!! with it!! I am not an IITian ..i am not an IIMite but i defly am a simple human with decent list of achievements..and i am good at certain things which the elitists from the elite instis are not.. a BIG "O" to my self confidence..(O podu..)
generally i would have justified why i am doing like that, but for a change i self -introspected and found that it was really true. I was getting more and more into teh viscious circle and the comparisons never stop. you pass 12th..then they ask why not IITs..then u finish BE then again the questions why not MS..okies then when u get a job in XYZ then the question why not ABC..u work in XYZ for 2 years then why not MBA ...then u do MBA..why MBA from GSBC and not the IIIMs and like minded institutes.. u finish MBA and get job in PQR then why not a job in I-bank or consulting..My god!!! wont it ever stop!!!
even if i have been content the society thrusts it pressures on to me and boy!! the stress has till now been killing me.. Is this really necessary...
some people are born intelligent and some become intelligent down the lane and i belong to the latter category, but society believes there exists only one creed and it is the former.
I think i have been cribbing ever since i passed out from engineering and have never really found what i want. cribbing i feel is a result of insecurity as well as inability to understand what u really want. In the broader sense if i think what i really want i must admit i have done reasonably well both in professional and personal front. if i am not proud of my achievemnets who else will be. i am pretty sure that there will be a thousand people who would like to be in my shoes. The case of grass looking greener on the other side has always led me in pursuit of trvial greener pastures which i am now confident i will never find as whichever pasture i go turns from green to red.The problem is not with pastures but with mindset.
As a starting block i will start to feel good about myself, reduce the cribbings and most importantly will stop the comparisons.the comparisons wouldn't have been there had i been in some other place like noida, blore , hydie etc.. but anyways knowing that i am responsible for my actions and decisions i am gonna enesure that i have all the more reasons to celebrate my existense and achievements rather than rant abt it..
A big damn to another set of comparisons which come..
hey u gotta go to US and earn $%^&$% or work in#@$@#$ in ndia .. then only girls will marry you..
hell!! with it!! I am not an IITian ..i am not an IIMite but i defly am a simple human with decent list of achievements..and i am good at certain things which the elitists from the elite instis are not.. a BIG "O" to my self confidence..(O podu..)
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Btw, you know the problem - you have figured it out quite clearly and you know the solution. So, what's to stop you? Happiness is within you, my friend.
Cool musing.
Am blog rolling you pal.
Cheers.
chill man..i think better things are in store for us. just that we need to be a bit patient..leave the comparisons shit dude..its crazy and sucks out your happiness..hope u get out of the bane of being a tamil iyer..:lol: btw VMM stands for vidya mandir mylapore..the school where i studied.